Men discuss having breast cancer, stopping domestic abuse and starting World War III. iPM hears from a listener who found a lump in his nipple and was treated for breast cancer on the same day and by the same surgeon as his wife. We also speak to one of the few men in the UK to run a domestic violence unit and ask how his own behaviour towards women has changed. And a bomber pilot explains how he waited for the alarm bell to ring that would signal the start of a nuclear war with the Soviet Union. With Eddie Mair and Jennifer Tracey.